Mathematicians have developed a simple formula that can predict whether a marriage will last or end in divorce. The formula, created by psychology professor John Gottman and two mathematicians, has an astonishing accuracy rate of 94%. The researchers conducted interviews with around 700 couples over a ten-year period to gather data for their formula. They found that the ratio of positive to negative interactions during and after an argument was critical, with a value of five to one being the threshold for a successful marriage. If a couple interacts positively less than five times during or after an argument, the likelihood of divorce is high.
The formula is based on the five phases of love that every successful relationship goes through. The researchers found that couples in healthy relationships may argue fiercely, but they also laugh together, tease each other, and reminisce about positive experiences. These behaviors fall under phase four or five of the love phases. However, many people do not know how to build a connection with their partner or how to use humor to diffuse tense situations. For these couples, emotional support is lacking, even during arguments. Gottman emphasizes that the formula is essential for psychotherapists to help couples identify the critical moment that could lead to divorce.
The formula’s simplicity and accuracy make it a valuable tool for psychotherapists to help couples understand their relationship’s strengths and weaknesses. By identifying the critical moment that could lead to divorce, couples can work on improving their communication and emotional support to strengthen their relationship. The formula’s success rate of 94% is impressive and provides hope for couples struggling in their marriage.
